One untold secret to relationships that will absolutely blow your mind! For Partners and Singles…
Have you ever had times in a relationship where you wondered, “Why couldn’t it be exciting like when it first started?”
What was it in those beginning memories that made the connection powerful and thrilling? Or maybe you just might hope for a small piece of that spark to return.
I’m so grateful for Brandon Broadwater sharing with me one thing that now has truly unlocked a secret that can make any relationship an amazing experience.
It’s so unreal, that during periods of my marriage, when I didn’t have this in place, things slowly turned from romance to roommate. We’d exist around each other, but there was no actual interest in the relationship amongst the circumstances and busyness of life. I remember actually thinking to myself, “Maybe I’m a failure as a husband, and things won’t actually ever work out or in the least get better.” I even had the knowledge to change things but I didn’t take action on it! I failed to be present and curious what was going on in my wife’s world, and I wondered why things were so hard seemingly everywhere in my life.
At one point, I had to make a decision, I had to turn off my pouty face and say, “I’m going to do this 100% – something has to change, and it’s got to start with me!”
I experienced a brand new level of love and joy in my relationships this week that I never could’ve imagined. I not only touched the heart of my wife, but I saw in her this excitement in her eyes (as I felt it) and she constantly wanted to ask me: “What can I do that would really brighten your day? How can I help you with what you would love to do?”
It was amazing. And the best part, I knew that “EVERYONE” could do it.
The tool is called “Bright Futures”
Brandon Broadwater said:
“Without a Bright Future, your relationships will die.”
A bright future is exactly what it looks like, “a scheduled activity that both persons are mutually excited about and looking forward to doing together.” It can literally be anything! Here’s some examples:
- Attend a concert
- $0.99 ice cream cones and picnic
- Hike a picturesque trail
- Make a meal together
- Go on a bike ride
Imagine, if you did a bright future a week – that would be 52 awesome memories you would create a year. What would your relationship look like? How would it look after doing that for 25 years? Who will this influence in the process?
So here’s what you got to do to create a bright future:
Step 1 – decide who you want to create a bright future with and ask them
Step 2 – ask them “When do you want to make time to do something fun together?”
Step 3 – Brainstorm ideas – give each other 3 options of what might be a fun activity together – be proactive and offer your ideas 1st, if they don’t like them, the rule is they have to offer 3 ideas – keep going until you find one you both like – I like to ask myself, “What did we do that worked really well in the past/recently?”
If you’re feeling stuck, Google Search “Fun Ideas” to build some momentum
Step 4 – Schedule the date & time
Step 5 – (If you have kids) – Make sure a babysitter is planned EARLY in advance – this can cancel bright futures if not arranged – get creative if you think you don’t know any “What might we do differently to get couples time alone?”
Step 6 – Prepare any logistics in advance – Gas, Tickets, Sports Equipment, whatever is going to help the experience ‘flow’.
Step 7 – Show up & Have Fun
PS – make sure you minimize your screen time distractions to almost zero (only exception is if you have a babysitter you want to have contact with)
I promise you that as you go through this process, you’ll find new excitement, opportunities to connect, and love towards your relationships! This works!!
Enjoy your Bright Futures!